There is a season to grieve and a season to leave; people and toxic circumstances.
There is a season for love and a season for despair; but that is where the most growth originates from. A season to laugh and a season to cry... A season to live and multiply! A season of fear; and waiting in the shallow end until it's safe to come out. A season of betrayal and a season of redemption.... Recognize the season you are in; and realize that the Christ within will guide us, and not be misguided or blinded by the seasons that has transpired. In the end; each season is temporary, and created to mold us into the Warriors we truly are, enemy defeated by the Almighty hand of God! - S.Q.S (O.W.V. Blog)
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Dear People Pleaser,
Why? That’s a good question, why are we beyond concern for others' responses or reactions, and afraid to create and stick to boundaries? Who? The people pleaser are the broken souls who walk around with unresolved trauma and conflict; seeking to be loved, valued, and wanted. Being the things that we wished were received, and staying in that “extra mile gear” to maintain our relationships. Sad! Yes, this is very sad indeed! In return for striving to please others with the wrong intentions, we are creating unhealthy relationships and becoming drained in the process. Now What? Being aware of our “people pleasing” is the first step; and being honest with ourselves and others would be next, which ends up creating healthier boundaries as a result. Conclusion… We have to heal this version of ourselves; and we are not able to do that on our own. We must surrender and let go of the things that were never meant for us to carry from the start! We must realize that what we seek in others; only God can truly fulfill and provide in us, resulting in a healthier soul and being a blessing to others naturally. It is OK to say no, to have standards or boundaries, it doesn’t make us better than anyone else, it creates a healthier dynamic with yourself and others! We are WORTHY of Beautiful and Amazing Relationships & Things, but we must believe this first, and realize our true identity in Christ! With Love, Your Sister in Christ (O.W.V. Blog ) Who are you? The Arrogant Ones; who lift their noses with each title obtained behind one's name.
Who are you? The Judgmental Ones; who question other people's actions, based on what YOU would do. Who are you? The Insecure Ones; who bully others out of things they are too intimidated to do. Who are you? The Single Parent Shamers; counting the children that don't belong to you! Condemnation of status, and counting baby daddies, I think it's time for you to find a new hobby boo. Who are you? The Racist Ones; who think they are better, based on the color of their skin. Creating generations of hatred & division, proud of what is, but stumble when confronted and put in one's place. Who are you? Who are we; to think we are bigger and better than anyone other than the Great I Am, Jesus Christ? It's time to humble ourselves, because the wrath of God is not something to mock, or play with! You think you are bad and bold now, but I am here to tell you all things are temporary, and the way we live now, please believe we will pay for it sooner or later. Who are you? - Obstacle Warriors Vibez Blog Seeking release from the strongholds of the mind and the past; doing the inner work, but always end up, to what seems like the start. Lessons in the present, but too focused on the obstacles and future; so we repeat the tests of trials, and continue the conflict within.
Wounds are buried as deep as the loved ones who have lost their lives; some because of their own personal struggles, others because it was just their time. We become bitter instead of better; and our enemies triumph over the misery we created, the prison we stay in, because so much has happened, and a miracle is like holding one's breath. Our soul has died and we are now just living life on Neutral, Fear, Anger, Resentment instead of living life to the fullest. It does not happen overnight; our wounds must heal, and we must forgive ourselves and others. It's a journey to live at your full potential, not an overnight remedy, or a "3-keys-to-a better-you seminar." We are all different and not all "methods" or "keys" are one-size-fits-all. Work is required within, but some of us are too broken to even begin. The time wasted on the losses, pain, resentment, is time that could be used towards healing and moving forward. We all have our wars within; that has broken us down to a level we never imagined; but holding on to the pain and hurt, and giving up and numbing what should be healed, extends the sentence to the prison we have created, and the process of release starts within. -S.Q.S💞 Dear Messy Middle,
Peace be with you! For we have overcome the worst versions of ourselves, but we still have a lot of wounds and trauma that keeps us stagnant in certain areas of our lives. We are all well aware of the before and after scenario, but very few people talk about the "messy middle." There tends to be this jump from being a "hot mess" to a "triumphed" King or Queen, but only a handful of people discuss the messy middle version of themselves. True transformation is not so black and white; there are many moments of slipping back into old habits, behaviors, or mentality. Triggered by circumstances, or it is just a comfort and/or coping skill, that is safer to run to over trying something new and healthy. Outside looking in; this person who is in the messy middle stage of life, comes off like change is not in that person's future, and are doomed to one strongholds and addictions. That is why it's important to have a strong Spiritual Foundation; to keep fighting on our behalf when it doesn't seem like things will change or get better. Genuine change includes detours, relapse, and overall regression periods. Accept that; but let's not stay there or be defined by those periods. We are human; and some wounds take longer to heal from than others. So let's give ourselves grace, and give grace to others who are currently struggling in the messy middle instead of judging them. It's not an ideal spot to be in; but it is temporary, and this too shall pass! We are Loved... We are Wanted... We are Chosen... We are Warriors... We are children of the most high King! With Love, Your Sister in Christ Seeking something of meaning; outside of the misery that at times consumes one, that later is a diagnosis of depression, or a form of some other Mental Health Disorder.
Society is teaching us to be defined and limited based on our struggles; so challenging ourselves is completely off the table! This has become generation Mental Health and Identity, with a side of recording our moments when the storms have hit us tremendously. People pleasing on another level; trying to find our identities through the job titles, trauma, and others we put subconsciously on a pedestal.. Not knowing they secretly wish they could have the strength that we are not yet aware of, because who we are is intertwined with this broken world! Step out of this world and into God's Word. We are truly loved beyond any human interaction or encounter! We must see ourselves the way our father sees us; and operate accordingly. Baby steps.. big steps.. just take a step and leap of faith. Each day is an opportunity one should grasp, before it's too late! - Society VS The Word Grace
It can be so difficult to provide this; especially when others push buttons. Striving to be a reflection of Christ; but the former self wants to come out from time to time. It is when we face trials; our moral defects shine the brightest, and instead of shame or self-pity, we must become aware of these traits, and hand them over to Christ on a regular basis. Grace is a beautiful gift to give to others; as well as ourselves. Embracing the imperfections; and growing as a result. Letting go of what should be; and having faith in the present, and what will be. What a beautiful thing when grace is given and received. So instead of focusing on where we fall short in this area, let’s rejoice where we stand at this time. Giving room for growth… Enduring what was and is to come… Knowing that we are not alone! With Love, Your Sister in Christ:) An ongoing battle of a fight within; hatred and resentment on another level...
The people who were supposed to love us; didn't have the capacity or interest, so the trauma that we carry creates a bond with others, who are as broken as ourselves. Why!? Why couldn't we receive the love and support that every soul deserves? Rage! Episodes of anger towards those who didn't inflict the pain to begin with! Seeking validation from someone... Anyone... Who can relate to the wounds one operates from. Time.... So much time has passed since the initial transgressions, that we only know how to operate in a certain way. Trust! What is that? Betrayal has been a huge companion, and scars have been the result of getting close. Higher Power... Easier said than done; putting one's faith in a being you can't see or touch! Misery... That is our only option if one has no belief, trust or faith outside of ourselves. Healing... The beginning of what is required to shutdown the misery and victim mentality... A realization that we all need a Savior; who creates beautiful things from ashes. The ONLY one who can love us beyond any human being on earth. The only validation that is needed; realizing our identities in Christ alone shuts down every and all weapons formed against us, with our Father by our side we shall prosper, and our wounds will be a guide to save another soul who has been on a similar road. Validation (Obstacle Warriors Vibez Blog) Dear Recovering Addict,
Each day we are given is a blessing; and each moment we abstain from our drug of choice is a VICTORY! Regardless of how many times we fall on this journey; the overall goal is to keep moving towards a life of SOBRIETY. People will put us in a box; and many will overlook the small victories over our addictions… Some will choose “tough love” when it comes to supporting us; but the results equals criticism and judgment. We can not focus or let others distract us from the progress we have made; because at the end of the day we are all different, and have chosen this lifestyle for varied reasons. Are these people better than us because they don’t have the same struggle? No! Do we continue the former path because our addiction/s can be an ongoing war? No! Can someone truly change their ways? Yes! We are not defined by the things we battle with; it is a part of our story but it does not define who we are, or who we will become! So keep moving forward WARRIOR; as we continue to heal, and no longer let our addiction/s and others dictate the beautiful future that is awaiting us. Sincerely, A Fellow Recovering Addict :) Now is the time to activate the gifts within to become the person we were meant to be all along.
The results sound tempting but require work within that makes one stop; and go back to what comforts, instead of stepping out and breaking the habits that have become our sabotaging cycles. Shut down the white noise that comes from naysayers who are too afraid to take the risks we are willing to make! Even if failure was the result; we still have more courage than the ones who discourage us, and find comfort in our shortcomings or faults. Realize my Kings and Queens that we were made to be set apart; and not to blend and be a part of a fallen world! We were created to be much more than all of us have settled for… All playing an important part; no job or task is too big or too small… Elevate my Brothers and Sisters; for the gifts we were blessed with were meant to bless others. Love and Support being the result of coming together no matter where we are; because at the end of the day we are to be REFLECTIONS of the Most High King, and anything less would be an absolute tragedy! - S.Q.S ( O.W.V Blog) |
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