Dear People Pleaser

Dear People Pleaser,

Why? That’s a good question, why are we beyond concern for others' responses or reactions, and afraid to create and stick to boundaries?

Who? The people pleaser are the broken souls who walk around with unresolved trauma and conflict; seeking to be loved, valued, and wanted. Being the things that we wished were received, and staying in that “extra mile gear” to maintain our relationships.

Sad! Yes, this is very sad indeed! In return for striving to please others with the wrong intentions, we are creating unhealthy relationships and becoming drained in the process.

Now What? Being aware of our “people pleasing” is the first step; and being honest with ourselves and others would be next, which ends up creating healthier boundaries as a result.

Conclusion… We have to heal this version of ourselves; and we are not able to do that on our own. We must surrender and let go of the things that were never meant for us to carry from the start!

We must realize that what we seek in others; only God can truly fulfill and provide in us, resulting in a healthier soul and being a blessing to others naturally. It is OK to say no, to have standards or boundaries, it doesn’t make us better than anyone else, it creates a healthier dynamic with yourself and others!

We are WORTHY of Beautiful and Amazing Relationships & Things, but we must believe this first, and realize our true identity in Christ!

With Love,
Your Sister in Christ

(O.W.V. Blog )